On
a completely different note, Chris and I actually talked about going on a
vacation next week. Not sure where. We first thought about Branson,
Missouri. Then she started playing
online and asked what I thought about going to the Hill Country. Anybody know anything good out there in that
neck of the woods? Anyway, she was
actually getting into the whole idea, so it looks like we are on to leave
Monday morning. I think we might head
north first, though. I’d like to check
in on my good buddy who is having some serious surgery in Dallas before we head
west.
And
then … Chris got a call from her sister about their Dad. Now, I’m going to leave out all the details
about the family’s, well … strange relationship with him. Suffice it to say for now that he’s in the
hospital in Victoria, and the siblings have to decide where to take him when he
is discharged. The original plan was to
get him into a nursing home in Victoria.
Then the other siblings came up with the idea to bring him to Galveston
and put him in an apartment “so Chris can take care of him and her kids can
look in on him.” Just a few problems
with that particular scenario. One, he
is not capable of living by himself in an apartment. And two, no one had asked Chris … or her
kids. Not to mention that Chris was the
one to take care of their mother, then my mother. I know.
That means she is the most qualified.
But it seems to me that maybe it should be someone else’s turn. She really needs a break from end of life
care. I contacted a friend I have in
Victoria to see what other help may be available there. He’s checking around for me. Chris did talk to her dad’s doctor (well, to
his physician’s assistant) yesterday.
Poor guy. He sure didn’t know
what had hold of him. He tried to fast
talk around some of her questions. Never
a good idea with Chris. Then he made a
statement about one of the medications being just another option for one he was
already on. Nope. She offered to explain to him what each one
was for. Worse yet, he tried to pass off
some of the symptoms as “nothing to worry about.” Very bad move. Especially since those particular symptoms
just happened to be identical to the ones Mom was having when we took her to
the ER originally. She let him know that
whole story as well. And she ended with,
“and she is dead now, so don’t tell me there is nothing to this. I expect you to ...” And she proceeded to outline the procedures
she wanted them to do. Ouch. The guy will probably end up ignoring her,
but he sure got an earful in those moments.
Gotta say, I was sure proud of her.
Today she is supposed to call the hospital again and talk to the social
worker who is his case manager. That
person should be able to facilitate transferring him to a nursing care facility
there in Victoria when the time comes.
So
what about our trip now? Still on at
this point. Still accepting ideas for
activities in the Texas Hill Country. Where
to go. Where to stay. What to see.
What to avoid.
Psalms
121:1-2 says, “I lift up my eyes to the
hills — where does my help come from? My
help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.”
Father,
thank you for getting those hills ready.
We plan to lift up our eyes in that direction. Meanwhile, will you do some facilitating down
there in Victoria? Amen.
2 comments:
OH, Kelley - prayers that Chris will stand firm. I am ashamed of her siblings for trying to guilt her into this. I would love to have a little "come to Jesus" meeting with them. You and Chris need some time to recover from all you have been through with your mothers.... and also to be able to spend time together as a couple without the stress of caregiving hanging over your head. I know this because of my caregiving with my mother.
Take good care of one another... you guys deserve it!
Love you both!
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